tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post4169772176958989884..comments2023-10-29T07:23:40.259-04:00Comments on From the Garden Bench: One of Those Times of Lifewebbhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post-79986766061845186772010-08-21T18:28:56.271-04:002010-08-21T18:28:56.271-04:00My husband and sister-in-law went through this a c...My husband and sister-in-law went through this a couple of years ago with their mom. It was a very trying time. She was no longer able to care for herself in her own home and had to be placed in a nursing home. She fought the decision every step of the way pleading with my husband’s sister to quit her job and care for her, but with two kids in college and one in high school that was impossible. They got her the best care they could and visited almost daily, but it was still hard. The nursing home put her on so much medication she lost her vivacious personality. My husband and his sister were consoled knowing she was safe and comfortable. Sometimes that is all you can do. <br /><br />My thoughts are with you and your mum.Savvyworkinggalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08159197609419858161noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post-35491219529593088612010-08-16T16:23:06.333-04:002010-08-16T16:23:06.333-04:00So sorry to hear about this, really takes the carp...So sorry to hear about this, really takes the carpet from under your feet doesn't it? My mum had a heart attack a few years ago, with little warning, and I had never let myself imagine losing a parent before, and it shook me to the core. She is living a full and pretty healthy life now, but I sympathise so much. My adult self seemed to crumple and I felt so young and in need of my mum again when she was wired up i hospital.<br /><br />I'm so glad your mum is on the mend and I hope the tricky conversations go well. It certainly makes you treasure every moment.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12169459398749257493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post-80462864635429148832010-08-15T14:17:30.993-04:002010-08-15T14:17:30.993-04:00Thank you ALL! Things are better this weekend, al...Thank you ALL! Things are better this weekend, altho I can see that if I'm gonna be the one to supervise her care this two-hour drive just doesn't get it. Today they called to say she is out of clothes to wear - seems the laundry didn't do her clothes this week. Fortunately, I was able to round up a cousin's wife who was willing to go dig out something for her until I can get there on Wednesday, but I thought all that was taken care of - silly me!<br /><br />Appreciate your support - more than you know.webbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168174623602308906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post-29768344241691117332010-08-12T23:16:57.423-04:002010-08-12T23:16:57.423-04:00Oh dear, tough times indeed. My mother died almost...Oh dear, tough times indeed. My mother died almost a year ago, and I (only child and relative) was on the other side of the world. I know most of us have to deal with this, but it's YOUR Mom. My thoughts are with you. You will get through this.Annekehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03489436512277337741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post-7784950488599282982010-08-12T21:28:38.501-04:002010-08-12T21:28:38.501-04:00How terrifying for all of you.
My parents died wh...How terrifying for all of you.<br /><br />My parents died when I was in my 20's, so I don't have this to worry about/fear.<br /><br />We just had a visit from my bosses' mother today who is 103. She seems to want to keep living. Strokes, falling in the bathroom, lack of hearing, she carries on to watch West Virginia throw a football another season.<br /><br />My boss lives in fear of losing her. <br /><br />I hope yours recovers and you can love her for many more years.<br /><br />xo janeflwrjanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14905305551745652868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4558351056749386610.post-56741750236251780172010-08-12T19:50:55.818-04:002010-08-12T19:50:55.818-04:00Unfortunately, you are NOT the only daughter in th...Unfortunately, you are NOT the only daughter in the world to go through this. Two summers ago, my own mom buried her mom and her last living parent. Granny went down pretty fast so Mom didn't have a ton of time to make plans, but she did see some of the writing on the wall and had to start communicating with her sister about future care. Although my mom is far from elderly, she is close to retirement age and I can't help but think about these things myself. None of us want to think about life without their mom or helping their mom descend into death as much as she brought us up in life. But that is the circle and there is very little we can do to escape it. And it's only right. Life is just too unfair when parents have to care for dying children. <br /><br />If your mom drinks, maybe a quick shot of bourbon before serving up POA papers? Or..maybe..take her hearing aids out...Allysonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536029582533052135noreply@blogger.com