Thursday, August 12, 2010

One of Those Times of Life

I haven't written in ten days because my head has been elsewhere. I haven't been able to write about frivolous things, because I've been tangled in a family problem, and I wasn't ready to talk about it. Today I think I am.

Mother fell two weeks ago at the adult community where she lives. Apparently she took a tumble in the middle of the night - on the way to the "little girls' room" - and she lay there about 12 hours until Security entered her apartment to check on her. First, a shout out to both Security and to the members of the Little Old Lady Mafia (LOLM) who insisted that they do it. Apparently, like me, Ma doesn't miss lunch!

(I should stop right her and say that she did not break anything - thank goodness!)

They did everything right: the nurse was called and Mother was delivered to the health care center to spend the night and be checked out. She had some minor issues and blood chemicals out of whack, but seemed ok - until the following day when she developed ventricular fibrillation. That wins you a trip to the hospital when you are 85. Naturally, Mitchell and I were out of town when it happened and my brother is 500 miles away, but they assured me that she would be fine and that I did not need to rush home.

On that Monday, tho, I presented myself at the hospital in time to meet the cardiologist and the internist who agreed that for reasons unknown her heart enzymes and rhythm had both gotten messed up, and that she would be fine as frog hair in a few days. Oh, and as soon as we get rid of the pneumonia. Now, there's a word to strike fear in the hearts of children of 80-year olds!

So, medically they are telling me she will be fine, but did I mention that she had had moved to LaLaLand mentally? She did know me, but complained about sleeping in a closet (fortunately, from my perspective, a closet with a private bath) and having a clock that rang every minute. (We finally figured out that she meant the heart rate monitor, which they silenced so she could sleep.)

As children we spend a goodly part of our lives knowing - on some level - that our parents will not outlive us. But, suddenly that time line looks mighty short! Bro and I are burning up the cell towers trying to stay informed, give each other moral support, and make decisions for her care.

To make a long story short, this was just a warning. Mother is back at the nursing center recovering her strength so that she can return to her apartment - maybe in a couple of weeks. Once the drugs were out of her system - and her hearing aids back in her ears - her mental state picked up remarkably. She has returned from LaLaLand and the LOLM is visiting regularly to help build up her spirits and to give her the mental stimulation of conversation.

But now that we have had this warning, we need to start looking at alternatives and making some serious plans for the future. In a few more days she will be able to help with the decision-making and we will have a serious talk about Power of Attorney. [Anyone have a good suggestion for how I say, "Mother, we need you to sign this now!"?]

Gee, I feel better just sharing this with you all. Ain't like I'm the only daughter in the world that will even go thru this process - right?

Thursday, August 5, 2010

I am so Thrilled!

I won!

Occasionally someone is giving away something that I really like, and so I toss my name into the hopper just for fun. Last week Jill from Third Age Musings offered several of her lovely handmade things and... I won one. I am thrilled.

Hope you will go to her blog, but in a nutshell... she is a retired British teacher who is creative with a capital "C". She is studying photography in a formal way, but at the same time experimenting with all sorts of painting and sewing projects. You can learn lots from her, or just enjoy the lovely photos on her blog. Do go visit!

And, thanks so much. I am thrilled - really!

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Wine and Opera

What sort of idiot leaves for a long weekend of opera and wine and forgets her camera? I'll give you one guess!

Mitchell and I have traveled to Charlottesville, Virginia, for a number of summers for open-air opera at the Ashlawn-Highland estate near Monticello. It was the home of James Monroe and just up the road from Mr. Jefferson's estate. Somehow, I don't see them hanging over the back fence comparing notes on crop rotation, but I do imagine them visiting back and forth with a glass of wine and a leg of mutton. Today Ashlawn-Highland is owned by the College of William and Mary (which is located 120 miles away in Williamsburg) and the opera has grown too large for the outdoor venue. Last summer it moved to downtown Charlottesville into the lovely restored Paramount Theater which is located on the downtown pedestrian mall.

The Paramount opened in 1931 and for forty years was a mainstay of downtown movies, until closing in 1974. Its Greek Revival style has been restored both inside and out during a 10-year project that was completed in 2004. Its main hall is octagonal - which is unusual for movie theaters, but excellent for proscenium theater because it creates a space that is wider than deep so that the performers' voices carry well in the space. It is ideal for opera.

Our weekend was two evening performances of Ashlawn-Highland Opera - Don Giovanni and Brigadoon - two lovely dinners on the mall, and wine tasting at four local wineries! The singers were unusually good this year and the acting better than some years, so we thoroughly enjoyed the cultural part of our journey. Good dinners and great wine completed the city part of our trip.

The most fun, of course, was the wine tasting. Now, we enjoy a good wine with dinner (or without) but don't pretend to know much about wine. By doing a formal tasting - ok, four - we learned a lot about the wines (some of it we might remember) and are starting to know why we like, or don't like, certain wines. I pretty much prefer the lighter, sweeter, fruitier white wines, while Mitchell can go a bit drier and likes some of the heavier reds. We visited two wineries last trip, and four more this time, so here's my summary in case you are in the area and want to sample a little vino.

First Colony Winery - We were the first to arrive on Saturday morning, so we had the tasting room to ourselves. A very knowledgeable young woman took us thru twelve wines from dry whites, to dry reds and ending with sweet and dessert wines. We particularly liked a rose' they make that is a "red wine made in the style of a white wine". Several places told us this same thing about rose' vines. I think that the Mateus of my youth has matured into many interesting "real" wines. (The folks at Mateus certainly consider their product to be a real wine, but it was what we drank in college when we didn't want beer! and not as interesting as the new rose's - as best I can tell.) One term I heard a lot was "fruit front". The First Colony 2008 Zephyr was a sweeter white wine that when I tasted it was immediately "fruit front". I could taste peaches and orange and pineapple on my lips and the tip of my tongue - neat! I'm learning to taste wine! We bought a variety of four bottles and moved on to lunch at Pee Wee's Pit BBQ.

Blenheim Winery - We spent our Saturday afternoon at this lovely winery. Altho there were lots of people there when we arrived, the wine person spent a lot of time with us and we learned some more. Although we only bought two bottles of white here, we liked them enough that we also bought two glasses of wine and sat for a couple of hours on their deck reading, drinking and generally enjoying the day. They have a large deck and encourage folks to picnic there. This is also the winery that is owned by Dave Matthews - yes, that one. He has designed the labels and done some of the artwork himself, so there is an extra feeling of fun here. It was probably our favorite place to visit.

Burnley Vineyards - This was an interesting visit. We were the first people there on Sunday morning - we drink wine on Sunday morning. Doesn't everyone? We were served by the actual owner and wine maker - whose middle name is Daniel, but who never actually introduced himself. Good wine maker, not really sociable? As more people showed up, he opened up a little and talked more - maybe got into his tasting persona? - and we ended up loving his wines. We bought a whole case from him, including four bottles of his table wines - a drier white and a drier rose' made from chamborcin grapes - I loved the taste even tho it is drier than I usually like. We also got four bottles of dessert wine - red and white with chocolate - and then four bottles of his fun wines - two red, two white for deck sipping.

Horton Winery - A real old timer in Virginia wineries and a very different experience. They have this huge long list of wines and you tell them which ones you want to taste. Help! If we knew which ones we liked, we'd just order them! Even with our newly acquired knowledge, we weren't ready for this. We told the server that we liked the sweeter wines and she suggested a couple that we did like and bought. We also got a red - Cabernet Franc Reserve - as a gift for a friend. We both really liked the taste and the server assured us that it was not like merlot, which our friend doesn't like. The treasure here was another dessert wine that tastes like chocolate!

In case you are not familiar with the piedmont region of Virginia, you need to know that it's rolling foothills, full of two-lane winding roads. In other words, if you are going to two wineries in one day, you need lunch in between. I'm just saying...

On Saturday we drove to a little town called Fishersville, which is right on the James River, where we found Pee Wee's Pit BBQ. Virginia doesn't really have a unique barbecue style like some other southern places - North Carolina, Memphis, Texas, southern, etc. - so most restaurants do whatever the owner likes and then provide sauces so that you can adjust the flavor to your taste. This was good BBQ and good sides in a cute little mom and pop restaurant. Unlike many BBQ places, it was not completely filled with pig decorations, but they did have a nice greeter at the door.

Sunday we went a little different direction. We were in Gordonsville, Virginia, and had lunch at Tolliver House - lovely little lunch shop that was serving brunch and sandwiches. A good lunch and a good choice if you are in the area.

Virginia wines are a good thing. Look for them at a wine shop near you!

*Pictures are from my cell phone, except the Paramount Theater which I borrowed from them.

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Veggie Tales

Fortunately our veggie CSA has been able to keep bringing lovely, fresh summer veggies to market, so the poor performance of our garden - remember the peas? - hasn't meant hungry nights at our table - hardly! But it's still nice when a plan comes together, \ and the beet plan has done just that!

Mitchell likes to plant the veggie garden and I think he enjoys watering it, but he's not all that interested in the harvest. We planted beets last year and put them way too close together. We didn't really get anything edible, so his interest level in big, red root vegetables was pretty low this spring.

That's never stopped me if I wanted something, so I planted four rows of beets in the middle of his "square foot garden" using about two square's worth. I'm not much on thinning seedlings, so I planted them 3-4 inches apart and hoped for a good percentage germination. And voila' - I got beets.

Remember that issue I have with forgetting to write down the planting date? and the number of days until harvest? I wonder why I even bother to keep a garden journal? It seems like that would be a good place to keep information like that. Perhaps I will try it - someday.

At least beets are a bit more helpful than the peas were. I could tell when their "shoulders" started pushing up that they were getting "done", so I started harvesting.

We got three good, full harvests that yielded four dinners and a huge jar of pickled beets.

What more could a girl ask for? Actually.... okra. Soon. Stay tuned.